Day 49- A good short film after a long time!

https://youtu.be/h7R5cnvtWAo

Once upon a time I watched 5 films a day....all full length, any kind and any language, with or without subtitles. Most times, those kind of days would "Hang my system"..both my brain and the computer I mean. It felt different, something like meditation where your goal is to get to zero thought and that's rare ..very rare. I guess here, when you take in too much information at once, it's not that thoughts stop, we simply stop being aware of them because they are so many at so many different levels.

Well! And now, I hardly watch one film in 4 months! It's hard to get some good recommendations first and foremost and I have no time to waste on testing out good films.

Day 48- WEC - Weddings are supposed to be private Events!

Got married!
9 people in total!
It was perfect!

Advantages:

1. No gossiping people around : Case on point- I attended my cousin's wedding this January. They are a sweet family and it was a Big event, well managed. Yet, I heard people talk really negative stuff about the family. Eye popping statements!

So I concluded: I don't want these extras who have no business in any ritual, who are actually invited for their blessings but who can't even do that much with dignity.

2. Almost 100% environmentally friendly wedding: The more people you involve, more things get out of control. Why this, why not that...questions they shouldn't bother themselves with, opinions that are best ignored start making a difference when non essentials are invited. I wore a cotton saree, no silks. No wastage of food was found, the extra flowers etc were put in our compost pit.

3. The sanctity of the ceremony was maintained: A wedding is a special time, it's made up of mantras, holy verses from the Vedas etc. The result of having only parents and the closest nuclear unit was that everyone experienced the benefit of the rituals. Everyone was fully involved , attentive and helpful. At the end of the day, all of us were happy - not exhausted! Not thinking - 'Thank God! It's done!' It's not something to be gotten rid of, or bored of or irritated with. And I didn't feel any negative emotions at the wedding. There was intense fear initially..marriage has been a topic of much trouble in my life, but thanks to the mantras, the cheerful pandits who also told us they truly enjoyed the occasion since they could do all the rituals by taking their time. No hurrying because of guests waiting for The Reception to begin. The result was a smooth, positive and a holy marriage ceremony... the way it was ideally supposed to be.

4. Cost, no splurging to prove a point to anyone: We had wedding exactly the way we wanted it...to the last detail. No commercial activities were done. Amol put mehendi on my hands. All of us did the decoration made up of simply zhendu flowers with our own hands, with our own heads. No expensive flowers to show off..wealth or class. No professional decorators or photographers.

This and so many other considerations:

5. Time saved: The very next day we were on the ground , doing our regular activities. This wedding took only 2 days of preparation.

6. Taste of Reality: This felt real, natural, comfortable- it felt like Janaki and Amol. Not like someone we don't know ,or we don't understand or don't want to be. We are down to earth people and that is how the wedding was, down to earth! No makeup, no silly hairstyles, no fancy dress competition!

And therefore, you should too try this, at least once in your life. Learn to keep things simple and pure...and they turn magical!

Day 48- WEC - Weddings are supposed to be private Events!

Got married!
9 people in total!
It was perfect!

Advantages:

1. No gossiping people around : Case on point- I attended my cousin's wedding this January. They are a sweet family and it was a Big event, well managed. Yet, I heard people talk really negative stuff about the family. Eye popping statements!

So I concluded: I don't want these extras who have no business in any ritual, who are actually invited for their blessings but who can't even do that much with dignity.

2. Almost 100% environmentally friendly wedding: The more people you involve, more things get out of control. Why this, why not that...questions they shouldn't bother themselves with, opinions that are best ignored start making a difference when non essentials are invited. I wore a cotton saree, no silks. No wastage of food was found, the extra flowers etc were put in our compost pit.

3. The sanctity of the ceremony was maintained: A wedding is a special time, it's made up of mantras, holy verses from the Vedas etc. The result of having only parents and the closest nuclear unit was that everyone experienced the benefit of the rituals. Everyone was fully involved , attentive and helpful. At the end of the day, all of us were happy - not exhausted! Not thinking - 'Thank God! It's done!' It's not something to be gotten rid of, or bored of or irritated with. And I didn't feel any negative emotions at the wedding. There was intense fear initially..marriage has been a topic of much trouble in my life, but thanks to the mantras, the cheerful pandits who also told us they truly enjoyed the occasion since they could do all the rituals by taking their time. No hurrying because of guests waiting for The Reception to begin. The result was a smooth, positive and a holy marriage ceremony... the way it was ideally supposed to be.

4. Cost, no splurging to prove a point to anyone: We had wedding exactly the way we wanted it...to the last detail. No commercial activities were done. Amol put mehendi on my hands. All of us did the decoration made up of simply zhendu flowers with our own hands, with our own heads. No expensive flowers to show off..wealth or class. No professional decorators or photographers.

This and so many other considerations:

5. Time saved: The very next day we were on the ground , doing our regular activities. This wedding took only 2 days of preparation.

6. Taste of Reality: This felt real, natural, comfortable- it felt like Janaki and Amol. Not like someone we don't know ,or we don't understand or don't want to be. We are down to earth people and that is how the wedding was, down to earth! No makeup, no silly hairstyles, no fancy dress competition!

And therefore, you should too try this, at least once in your life. Learn to keep things simple and pure...and they turn magical!